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The Art Of Foreplay
Foreplay brings vast delight to most men, women and couples. However, it also contributes greatly to the success of sexual intercourse. The ideal preliminary foreplay fills you with delightfully exciting sexual arousal.
You can explore many varieties of mouth-to-mouth play in the course of a sexual encounter. Closed-mouth kissing with various degrees of pressure, with moist lips or with dry, with light brushing contact or with various motions, all yield pleasurable and exciting sensations under certain circumstances.
Open-mouth play can be a momentary break in closed-mouth activity: just as her man presses his lips to hers, the woman bares her teeth and opens her mouth to give him a gentle, unexpected nip, then as he draws back she ardently presses her moist warm lips to his.
After sexual excitement has become intense, a more prolonged interval of open-mouth play may build it further: both partners intermittently press their parted lips together, groping for sensitive spots with their tongue-tips and nipping gently at each other's lips and tongue.
Petting and embrace offer many ways of building sexual excitement and of keeping freshness and variety in your sex play. From the time your sexual desire first becomes aroused until the last whispered compliment before you say good night, your hands should rarely or never be entirely still.
Man or woman, you should stroke, caress and embrace your partner in never-ceasing physical expression of your endearment, your excitement, and your sexual arousal.
You will usually find that rhythmic stroking caresses stir early sexual excitement in womenmost intensely. You can stroke the ears and ear lobes, hair, shoulders, arms and hands, inner thighs, breast area, lower abdomen, back and buttocks.
Stroke through clothing at first, then shift to bare-skin contact as sexual arousal progresses. Sometimes a preliminary bath enhances your responsiveness to your partner's caress.
Playful tweaks and jiggles lend pleasant variety, freshness and surprise to your early love play. Pain pinches and nips fit in only at a much later stage of arousal but a sudden, unexpected stimulation gives excitement quite a boost in any phase of foreplay.
After you have both become moderately aroused, somewhat deeper-lying nerve fibers produce added excitement. Try bunching your fingertips together. Press them into a sexually sensitive area, such as the back or the lower abdomen, and move them back and forth or in a circle as far as the skin will readily stretch. In plumper areas such as the buttocks or thighs, pick up a fold of tissue between your thumb and fingers and use the same movements for stimulation.
Do not pinch the skin painfully: only grasp it firmly enough to stimulate the deeper nerves.
Besides this form of finger-tip caress, most women find similar pressures and motions, applied with the fingers separated and partially bent, helpful in stimulating their partners' upper backs and chests. This caress works especially well in maintaining and building a man's excitement during periods of mouth-to-breast and mouth-to-body types of play.
Time after time, women complain of inadequate preparation before intercourse when their men jump from a few kisses to fast insertion of the penis. The woman blames the man for neglect, the man doubts his own potency and control, and neither gets much satisfaction out of sex.
Viewed as individual problems, the difficulties seem insoluble. Viewed as a couple problem, the difficulties almost always disappear. Once the woman knows how to maintain her husband's excitement she can easily keep his erection firm and secure for many minutes, leaving him free to stimulate her. By working as a couple they can prolong foreplay to fulfill both their sexual desires.
When sexual excitement has built up, strong, deep muscle-clutching caresses may stir a final surge. Strong clutching of the thighs or buttocks, fist-pounding on the upper back and other wild actions lend still further joy when sexual excitement runs high.
Even raking your (male) partner's chest with your long (female) nails may heighten arousal when the time is ripe. Anything short of actual injury is fine in moments of greatest arousal. Hard caresses fit intense excitement only, though, and should be saved for moments of overwhelming passion.
One form of deep bodily caress deserves special mention: milk-duct massage. While surface stroking of a woman's breast excites her to some degree, the keenest sexual sensitivity centers in the milk ducts within and just behind the nipple.
If her man flicks the nipple back and forth with the ball of his finger, the bending and straightening of the ducts stimulate nerve endings. Slightly more intense sensation stirs when he rolls the nipple underneath his thumb. Still stronger stimulation comes when he picks up the nipple between his thumb and index finger and rolls it back and forth.
Some husbands prefer catching the nipple between their index and middle fingers, permitting sidewise rolling between the fingers, titillation with the thumb, thumb-rolling and a variety of exciting combinations which can bring a very sensitive and sensual woman to climax.
In a few women, breast sensitivity is keenest in tissue buried an inch or more beneath the nipple. You can stimulate this area without bruising or damaging the breast by placing the flats of all four fingers below the nipple and stroking firmly (but not roughly) from above downward with the shaft of the thumb.
Embracing involves less variety than caress, but still contributes considerably to building up sexual excitement. If you start the serious build-up of sexual excitement locked in face-to-face embrace, your early caresses generally move from neck to shoulders to breast and back.
With the woman's head in her husband's lap, her breasts, lower abdomen and thighs invite his prompt attention. A man reaching from behind finds his hands holding his woman's breast or abdomen while his lips seek out her earlobes and neck. The variety of caresses which different positions guarantee brings freshness to your sex life.
Bodily positions and movements similar to those occurring during intercourse (frottage) become increasingly exciting. Simply pressing your abdomens together or lying with the man locked between his lover's thighs will make passion run high! Some couples also enjoy close bodily contact during mouth, breast and general sex play. An intertwining of the legs to produce some friction of thigh on genitals sometimes adds excitement to breast and bodily caress.
Contact between nude areas usually proves most enticing when quite gentle, at least until intercourse begins. If you undress completely before a sexual encounter or during early stages of intimate play, you will find that an embrace which barely brings soft breasts against chest, which lays the husband's thigh against his woman's buttock, or which brushes leg on leg proves much more enticing than a crushing hug. Gentle contact stirs the sexually sensitive light-touch nerves while heavy pressure overwhelms them.
Naked embrace is simply a way of pleasurable caressing to orgasm with different body parts instead of with your hands. Like your hands, your other body parts stir excitement by moving lightly from place to place or shifting in rhythmic squeeze or stroke, not by pressing steadily against a sexually sensitive area. The female breast, the male genitals, the thighs and calves and feet can all produce light and enticing friction if properly applied.
Mouth-to-breast and oral sex
While any form of foreplay is normal, many people find oral sex challenging. But it is important! A woman will find that a man appreciates nothing more. Caressing or kissing her husband's cock and balls helps to build his sexual excitement and increase both his satisfaction and his capacity to please her.
A great many varieties of mouth-to-breast and mouth-to-body kisses and gentle nips of the neck, shoulders, chest or abdomen excite both men and women. Love nips along the top of the erect penis or gentler kisses around its head can bring sexual excitement to considerable height. A husband's mouth play with his woman's breasts gives tremendous excitement to both man and woman.
Although a chain of kisses spiraling around the breast can be exciting, most mouth-breast play centers on the nipple area. At first, very gentle frictions of the nipple against moist mouth tissues excites the strongest response.
Several techniques give this kind of contact: The man holds the nipple button gently between almost-limp lips, perhaps pouted outward to bring only their moist, smooth surfaces into contact. By rapid but gentle alternate blowing and sucking, he makes the nipple move in and out between his stationary lips.
With lips touching lightly or not at all, the man laps at the nipple with his tongue, runs the tip of his tongue around and across the button, or tries to press the button back into the breast with the tip of his tongue and then move it rapidly from side to side.
The man takes the whole nipple area into his mouth. Tucking the tip of his tongue down behind his lower teeth, he pushes the body of his tongue forward underneath the nipple, presses it up so that it catches the nipple against the roof of the mouth, and slides it backward in a gentle milking motion. He repeats this action rhythmically.
Somewhat deeper pressure on the nipple stimulates the milk ducts beneath for added sexual arousal. Most couples find one or more of these methods satisfactory: The man rolls his lips inward so that they cover his teeth and grasps the nipple button between them. By moving his jaw from side to side, he then rolls the nipple between firm surfaces.
The man takes the entire nipple into his mouth and milks it between the body of his tongue and his palate as above, but with some suction and firm pressure to make the stimulation deeper. Rocking the tongue from side to side adds interesting variety to this caress.
As a final fillip at the end of an episode of mouth-breast play, the man catches the nipple button gently between his lip-covered or bare teeth and either shakes his head gently or leans back to put the nipple under mild stretch.
When you become even mildly aroused sexually, stimulation of the penis, balls, vulva, or clitoris tends to increase your arousal further.
If you are just caressing the clitoris, you will probably want to keep most caresses gentle. You can bring much more variety and actually increase the intensity of stimulation by specific genital caresses of the most responsive spots than by merely using one or two fingers to mimic intercourse. Since the clitoris becomes erect and firm it stands out in the aroused female like a firm rod imbedded in the soft surrounding tissues at the meeting of the two inner labia just in front of the vagina.
When you start to caress the clitoris, the tissues in the area are usually more or less dry. Until they become moist with natural secretions or through lubrication, rubbing along the surface causes discomfort or irritation. Your earliest clitoral caresses must therefore remain free of surface friction.
Two simple techniques qualify: the rolling-pin type caress, in which you roll your finger back and forth across either the tip or the base of the clitoris like a rolling pin, and the vibrating caress in which you jiggle the finger rapidly but with very small excursions so that the surface tissues can move with the finger within the range of their elasticity.
As more thorough sexual arousal brings the fluid forming glands of the vagina into play, you can easily spread enough lubricating moisture over the clitoris to permit silky, non-irritating friction. However, you must usually transfer this moisture deliberately from the moist vulva and vagina to the vicinity of the clitoris, which itself has no lubricating glands.
You can new accomplish this purpose by simply repeatedly dipping the finger into the moist parts of the vagina and stroking the clitoris. In this procedure, you are using the vagina as a source of fluid, but you can also enjoy sexual stimulation.
Fluid-transferring caresses are an important part of genital stimulation. Stroking from behind forward along the inside of the large outer lips of the vulva or across the vaginal opening produces sexual excitement while simultaneously moistening the clitoris for intercourse or direct caress.
Soft, silky stroking rather than harsh rubbing works new. You will find many variations possible: one finger stroking up one side and then the other, tickling or vibrating titillation up one side and then the other, stroking along the sides of the vulva with one finger following each track, stroking from back to front with the flats of all four fingers joined (which you will find easiest if you hold your arm still and alternately open and close your hand in a snatching motion).
If you must go up into the vagina to find enough fluid, insert one or two fingers about half way in, press them fairly firmly against the front wall of the vagina so that you press this tissue and the underlying urinary tube between the pads of your finger and the pelvic bone, then draw your fingers along the vaginal wall until you reach the clitoris.
This caress usually lubricates the clitoris quite well while simultaneously offering sexual excitement and thrills. Or you can use any of the vaginal caresses described below in alternation with clitoral stimulation to keep your fingers and the stimulated area moist.
A well lubricated clitoris responds keenly to friction either crosswise or lengthwise, at its tip or its base, back to front or front to back.
You can stimulate the clitoris with the pad of your finger, the side of your finger shaft, the back of your bent finger, or your thumb knuckle. While engaging in vaginal caress, you can occasionally rub the base of your index finger and its knuckle or the pad of your thumb tip across or along the clitoris. Caresses can be slow or fast, steady or vibrating, rhythmic or irregular.
Almost anything goes, with two exceptions: don't use the fingernail area because the delicate tissues in this area scratch very easily, and don't continue friction-type caresses after the clitoris begins to get dry without first transferring more lubricating fluid to it.
Like the clitoris, the labia require lubricating moisture before they will tolerate much rubbing. Their surface location makes even the gentlest caress keenly satisfying, however. You can stimulate the inner lips with simple one-finger stroking.
You can pick up one lip between your thumb and finger, stroking along its length with light or moderate pressure or gently pulling it. You can fold your index and middle fingers, then catch one inner lip between them for a sort of rolling caress which simultaneously presses one of the knuckles against the clitoris.
The inner lips contain erectile tissue like that found in the penis and clitoris, but their engorgement usually occurs only during the final stages of sexual arousal. You may find that during arousal the inner lips engorge so firmly that they protrude and push the outer lips completely aside.
The inner lips simultaneously thicken into firm ridges instead of delicate folds. This enables you to bring a woman to orgasm easily without any danger of ejaculating before she has enjoyed her own orgasm.
The opening of the vagina becomes moist quite early in foreplay, so you can both caress it simultaneously and use it as a source of lubricating fluid for the clitoris.
Side to side friction along the back of the vagina with the finger inserted half an inch to an inch can be very exciting! A rotary caress in which you insert the finger an inch or so into the outlet and move it rapidly in a circle also proves exciting.
When sexual arousal is high, just prior to intercourse, another special caress sometimes gives quite a thrill. Pick up the muscle body which lies just behind the vaginal opening with your fingers part way in the vagina and your thumb tip on the outside. Kneed these muscles between thumb and fingers, jiggle them up and down or from side to side, stretch them downward or alternately squeeze and release them.
Most women develop rather keen sexual sensitivity of the tube leading from the bladder to the outside. This tube lies just in front of the vagina, where it gets caught between the penis and the pelvic bone.
By running one or two fingers up along the front wall of the vagina and pressing that wall toward your woman's pubic bone, you can duplicate this stimulation. Rhythmic strokings, in-and-out vibration or kneading motions all give varied and intense effect. Unlike most genital caresses, which should be silky and light-touched, this one requires reasonably firm pressure to be effective.
Caresses of the vagina itself serve several useful purposes. You build sexual excitement through in-and-out motions of one or two fingers, through two finger twists of the wrist while the fingers are inserted and spread.
You can judge your partner's preparedness for intercourse through vaginal caress, and assure her comfort during intercourse by always waiting until the vagina is thoroughly moist and is sufficiently relaxed to admit two fingers with ease before making entry.
Finally, intensive sex play either through the techniques discussed above or through finger motions simulating actual sex contact usually prove the easiest way to provide the necessary extra orgasms for women who need more than one climax in order to feel totally replete after intercourse or who need several more orgasms during each month than their man can otherwise provide.
If you adopt this course, however, remember that after one orgasm a woman needs further sexual arousal - that's how to help her reach orgasm again.
Proper caresses of the male genitals do nothing to speed the male orgasm, and in fact often have the opposite action. By building male excitement to a high level before the first contact of intercourse, you make that contact seem almost quieting, and keep the sexual stimulations of the first insertion from causing a quick climax.
Moreover, you prolong considerably the period of preliminary sex play, which generally makes full feminine fruition more likely.
You avoid both the hair-trigger urgency which most men develop if they hold off until their excitement is on the wane and the poor quality of erection which makes an inadequately stimulated male an uninspiring sex partner.
Gentle, early genital caresses usually center upon the scrotum and the top surface of the penile shaft. Light stroking of the back of the scrotum, starting perhaps an inch or two behind the sac itself and running either down or around the dangling appendage, often proves effective.
If you let the scrotum and testes lie free upon the flats of your four fingers, several varieties of caress become easy.
You can bobble the testes about with your fingers, gently scratch the back of the scrotum with your fingernails or the front of it with your thumb, or roll folds of the scrotal skin (avoiding the testicles) between thumb and fingers. Pinching caresses of the scrotal area can also be quite exciting if reserved for the final phases of sex play.
A quivering caress with the fingers patting lightly along the top of the penis, flicking of this area with the index finger, and scratching or pinching it all produce keen masculine excitement.
Stroking along the top of the penis from its base to its tip generally spurs male ardor without precipitating a quick orgasm and ejaculation.
Grasping or clutching the penis without any up-and-down friction also stirs excitement without upsetting harmonious sex pacing.
As a final fillip before sexual intercourse, some women occasionally administer a sucking caress just beneath the head of the penis, grasping the shaft in one hand and the head in the other, then quickly twisting the two hands in opposite directions in a sort of gentle twisting motion. By going one way then the other with each hand for two or three quick jolts, you can bring any erection to a perfect peak.
Like the female urinary tube, caresses where this tube runs along the bottom surface of the penis must generally be limited to tickling, scratching or pinching, which stimulate the skin instead of the underlying urinary tube. Deeper frictions might bring on a male climax and end the prospect of intercourse for you both. However, you can stimulate the male urinary tube before it reaches the penis without this danger.
This tube runs close to the skin surface for an inch or two behind the scrotum. By pushing the tips of one or two fingers hard up into this area and waggling them to and fro, you can give your man an added sexual thrill.
The final trigger of male sexual excitement is the frenulum, the thin fold of tissue just beneath the penile head. This fold and the small area of tissue adjoining it are a man's keenest sexual triggers. In the early stage of sex play, you had new leave this area strictly alone. Caresses here will bring the male to a pitch of excitement demanding intercourse in a few moments.
When you feel fairly well along in your own excitement, you might titillate or tickle this spot very briefly, just enough to make your partner catch his breath and increase his arousal. A quick but gentle scratch across this area with your fingernail will bring a further thrill, and is perfectly safe once you feel fully prepared for any sexual desires it inspires.
You can almost always trigger intercourse when you have reached the point of distinct yearning for it simply by pinching this nerve center once or twice or using the oral caress described above with your hands meeting at this area.